6 Rules for Traveling as a Couple

Rules For Traveling As A Couple

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Sharing an experience is a huge part of the experience itself. I am all for traveling solo for those who find joy in that, but I love traveling with my husband!

Many couples are very different people–opposites attract is a very real thing. While Sean tends to like visiting old churches, I would prefer a park or festival. So how does it work? How do you have an amazing vacation when you don’t agree on everything you want to do? Let’s take a look at the rules!


White Oak Lavender Farm | Harrisonburg, VA

White Oak Lavender Farm | Harrisonburg, VA


Plan your trip

This is pretty much my first rule of anything. I’m a planner so it comes naturally, but I know that some people hate planning so I’ll break it down for you.

If you are going on a long weekend trip, write down one thing you just have to do or see, and have them do the same. If it’s the same thing, then do it again for the next thing. If you are going on a longer trip, just keep doing this as many times as need to fill you time.

Here’s an example of our trip Paris:

Round one:
Jessica- Eiffel Tower
Sean- Eiffel Tower

Round two:
Jessica- Catacombs
Sean- Notre Dame

If you agree on some of your must-dos, then do them! The first thing we both absolutely had to do was to visit the Eiffel Tower, so we planned that first. If there are a couple things that aren’t the same, see if you would like to do them anyway, or maybe do them on your own (See below). This helps prioritize your trip and helps you to not cram too much into a day. It might even help you determine if you want to buy a city pass or other discount card.


On top of the Eiffel Tower

On top of the Eiffel Tower


Take a couple’s photo

So many people are quick to take out their camera at monuments, photos of animals, cute doors, etc., but forget to take a photo of themselves! It doesn’t even matter how bad the photo comes out, at least you have it to remember the two of you on your vacation. Don’t feel bad if it’s only a photo on your phone. Remember, the best camera is the one you have!

Photo tip: If you are in a populated area and you want someone else to take your photo, look for another tourist with a nice camera…you might have a better chance of getting someone who actually knows how to take good pictures! Even better, hire a travel photographer and have photos that are frame-worthy!

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Have a nice meal

Slow down and enjoy each others’ company! Find a place where you can sit down and enjoy the local cuisine. It doesn’t have to have a Michelin star restaurant, just a place the two of you can be alone and savor the native flavors. Don’t be afraid to ask what the local favorites are, it’s your vacation, so get the most out of it!


Amsterdam Dim Sum


Fly solo for a bit

If you are at your destination for a few days, take some time to explore on your own. Maybe the two of you had a must-do that didn’t line up. No worries! Just do it yourself. It’s okay. You two will still love each other <3

It’s so fun to talk about it when you meet up later in the day. A silly but fun thing we like to do is to meet up somewhere in the city that’s not the hotel. If you don’t know where it is, it’s like a treasure hunt with your partner at the end of it! And if you do know where it is, maybe you’ll get to feel (a tiny bit) like a local.


Solo trip to Paris


Get Lost

Some may call this exploring, but whatever you call it, get out there! I think we can all agree that its romantic (and super adorable) to hold hands and walk around while taking in the landscapes and cityscapes that create the memory of this place. Forget about the maps for a bit, and see what treasures you can come across. This is usually when we find the most interesting and authentic places.


Alley in Amsterdam


Communication, Compromise, and Cuddle

Yep, the 3 C’s! Communication should not be a surprise as that is the basis for any good relationship. I tend to over-communicate just for the sake of clarity. So, don’t say you want to do something just because the other person does and then be miserable and grumpy when you do it. That just makes everyone’s day go bad.

Along the same lines, compromise is equally important. Like I said, people are different and you are not going to agree on absolutely everything. Whether it’s sightseeing, dinner options, or even just where to travel too, be open to compromise.

Cuddle! You weren’t expecting that were you? Yes, you are in a new place with lots to see, photos to take, and food to eat, but don’t forget about each other! Besides, travel can be stressful and a 20-second hug is proven to reduce stress. So go, hug, and relax.



Above photo was taken during a photo shoot with Travelshoot.

Title photo by Kelvin Wu, our friend and amazing photographer!

Jessica Cutrufello wearing a green floral dress, glasses and pink lipstick

Hi! I’m Jessica, an American who made Amsterdam her home in 2014. I share European gems through food and memorable experiences. Want to know more? Head to my about page or check out my YouTube channel.

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